i used to feel this way about a lot of stuff. most of it comes from my parents constantly moving the bar for acceptable achievement. everything i did, like literally everything, there was a minimum of performance they expected and if i was able to exceed it that became the new bar. you can only do that to a kid so many times before they learn trying isnt worth the effort. i only ever tried at things i really liked and wanted to try to be the best at, but i would beat the shit out of myself for not being the best and would only ever feel relief at my achievements.

somewhat recently i started getting more into climbing, and the approach ive taken is that im not really trying to get better. if i have fun and get tired i consider that a good session, and a great session is one where i socialize with someone. its been so much more fun approaching it this way than any other way ive done sports. some days i deliberately half ass it, giving up when things get just a little too hard or just going home if im not feeling it. the best part is despite not giving it my all im getting a lot better because im showing up consistently and just enjoying the puzzle of a new route. i wish my parents had cultivated this approach in me as a kid. i would have had such a healthier relationship with sports and probably would have ended up doing better than i did and not quit quite as early.

yeah thats super annoying. my only other gripe is it will randomly decide to switch to some european mode and restart itself. that might be an e/OS/ issue though.

maybe kids cant tell you before then, but i think the science shows that gender develops prior to birth. we are born with zero, one, or many genders. it just takes a while for us to figure out which. some people can tell you pretty much as soon as they can talk and some take into their 80s and some never figure it out.

rather than choosing yet another arbitrary age to impose a life long gender on children we just let people choose when theyre ready, and change their minds whenever they like.

you dont have to call us all out like that. ill finish one of those projects someday…

abandons another project

except the one party member who suddenly seems way happier and more confident

cant wait for the day i fail at boymoding :3 itll make it so much easier to pull off tomboy

heres one

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/45242127

all boobs are asymmetric to some extent. theyre sisters not twins.