i was sharing journal excerpts with a friend yesterday and found this relevant one:
“The best advice I have regarding love and finding it is to stop trying so hard to be perfect. People don’t want perfect, they want human. A lot of them just don’t know it yet.”
Everyone’s vision of Perfection is different, so you’re really gambling there… I can say that while perfection might look nice on the outside, no one’s truly perfect. I don’t want to see the facade, I want to see the person underneath. The blemishes and faults and unpolished truth are WAY more attractive.
It’s a matching function. There are things that some people are allowed to prioritize as important that I don’t care about at all. I don’t care about talent/skill in music, dance, art, but I know people who do. I prefer tall women and know a bunch of people who prefer small/petite women. Some people like firm butts and some like big boobs. Some prefer women who have advanced degrees, and others don’t care for it. Some can find accents sexy, while others don’t. There are a million little personality quirks that can be a turn off to some and turn on for others.
Defining “perfection” isn’t productive. Try to find someone who likes your strengths and doesn’t mind your weaknesses, and vice versa. But that doesn’t necessarily mean compromising on your important priorities just because people aren’t perfect. You’re still allowed to define standards.
i was sharing journal excerpts with a friend yesterday and found this relevant one:
“The best advice I have regarding love and finding it is to stop trying so hard to be perfect. People don’t want perfect, they want human. A lot of them just don’t know it yet.”
Everyone’s vision of Perfection is different, so you’re really gambling there… I can say that while perfection might look nice on the outside, no one’s truly perfect. I don’t want to see the facade, I want to see the person underneath. The blemishes and faults and unpolished truth are WAY more attractive.
I just feel like expecting perfection - regardless of how you personally define it - is foolish and sets a person up for disappointment.
It’s a matching function. There are things that some people are allowed to prioritize as important that I don’t care about at all. I don’t care about talent/skill in music, dance, art, but I know people who do. I prefer tall women and know a bunch of people who prefer small/petite women. Some people like firm butts and some like big boobs. Some prefer women who have advanced degrees, and others don’t care for it. Some can find accents sexy, while others don’t. There are a million little personality quirks that can be a turn off to some and turn on for others.
Defining “perfection” isn’t productive. Try to find someone who likes your strengths and doesn’t mind your weaknesses, and vice versa. But that doesn’t necessarily mean compromising on your important priorities just because people aren’t perfect. You’re still allowed to define standards.